Commentary: My rabbi is gay, now what?


The Location Gay: Recently, GilSteinlauf, a senior rabbi of Adas Israel in Washington, DC, one of the largest conservative movement-affiliated synagogues came out as gay.

Soon after Apple, CEO, Tim Cook, announced he was gay. One blogger wrote, “You don’t just leave your wife to”go be gay any more than you would quit her to go be straight.” Another wrote, “Apple has lost its pioneering skills and sought more businesses.”

Fortunately, Rabbi Gil Steinlauf and Tim Cook both have financial anchors, bridges, closets and retractable vessels that can weather the storms and bypass rough tides, and maybe Unlike Michael Sam, an openly gay player who was cut by two National Football League (NFL) teams

Does one need a prerequisite to come out as gay? I asked. The gay community stories are bigger than these two men, despite the media attention. Fortunately, for many wealthy and famous people, publicly announcing their sexuality often increases wealth and power.However, this story is not about the rabbi or Tim Cook.

Rabbi Gil Steinlauf

For others they are trapped by their location under an ancient colonial doctrine, there is an ongoing fight for acceptance by homosexual people who are however seeking an anchor. On some of these pleasant beaches where the sunshine as if it never sets, it remains a delicate dance from the exclusion. For some homophobia roars like the ocean, damaging any objects in its path without an anchor. These unchecked anti-waves have eroded several impoverished and developing regions. 

The other stories: Many less fortunate gays, lesbians,  bisexuals, and transgender, announcements have the other effect. They do not provide speedboats to escape tides and community pirates and are sometimes thrown overboard by their own captains.

It is the plight for acceptance for other homosexual people who are trapped by location under an antiquated colonial idea that still roars like the ocean, damaging any objects in its path without an anchor. These unchecked anti-waves have eroded several impoverished and developing regions.This I believe represents a culture of homophobia woven in decades of social-political and stigma to vanish sexual and gender identity.

Gay 16, teenager was dead – beaten, stabbed, shot and run  (AP Photo/Jay, J-FLAG)
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Numerous parents also experience discrimination for having gay children and are more worried today about social stigma and hostility than their own future. These are some of the issues they face every day in the region: abuse, homelessness, lack of access to medical care, expulsion from the community.

The only visual representation of a voice mail or iTunes maybe the sound from the broken sewer pipes dripping and hovering over their heads from living under decayed bridges. Being gay is not a sin or learned behavior, but bigotry, intolerance, and atrocities against them are.

(One) — I termed him, Rupert. Shortly after he had come out, his church memberships and choir receded. He seldom goes to the beach anymore. Few friends’ lives cut-short as a barbaric treatment against them appeared now acceptable. Repeatedly denied entry to community activities, employment, and forced to move for their personal safety. Few burned alive, stoned, and scorned.

(Two) — Sonia dressed like a man, brittle hair, cargo pants, and boots, although she has found comfort in maintaining the small town floral garden. While some visitors marveled at her floral garden designs, others abused her appearance and hurled rocks at her. Being gay did not limit her imagination.

I wonder if a few had taken the time to know her, one would learn friends of own dad repeatedly raped her as a child at a local bar he possessed. With nowhere to turn for support, her trust in men eroded, and she became isolated.

Even in her death after she had lost her battle with breast cancer, her remains were treated as if her gayness had Ebola. Her ashes are now resting in the garden she designed.

(Three) — Berma, very beautiful and has a good job. She blends in well with her peers, lives in a pleasant home, and well educated. However, she is also scared of coming out. Despite rumors after she was seen holding hands with her partner on the other side of town, she constantly shrugged off the argument of having a child.

Even Human Rights Watch has noted an increase in violence simply for being perceived as a gay person. They do not provide the support system their future in being gay remains grim.

An umbrella still looking for the right shades: Despite US Attorney General Eric Holder’s announcement: “I am pleased to announce the federal government will recognize same-sex marriages”, combined with new laws passed in over 20 states, polarization, intolerance, and political ideology threatens this paradigm shift.

The gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender community has ultimately reached many shores, but others are still searching for that elusive lighthouse for guidance off these shores

In 2010, the Cayman Islands rejected the arrival of an Atlantis gay cruise. Moving forward is slow in the region.  Prime Minister Kamla Persad-Bissessar says the “decriminalization of homosexuality” in Trinidad and Tobago is not something her administration will seek to do because “it would not be prudent for the government to go ahead in that direction at this time”, according to the Trinidad Express.

Today, many of your cab drivers could have been famous cricketers, track stars, teachers, and police officers, but they were not welcome for being gay. Many left their communities to find comfort behind the wheel of a cab or coaching in a women’s sports league and serving your meal at the local restaurant.

Despite the statistical signs for more tolerance, this issue continues being a monumental task and these e regions cannot achieve this alone. 

The Jamaica Gleaner reported on an anti-gay march in St Thomas in response to a proposed bill that would recognize marriage as a legal union between two people and not the traditional man and woman.

An intolerance system passed down from several decades is hard to change course instantly. Subconsciously, the Anglicization of families as the British did wherever they settled centuries ago stay active. However, some islands have taken steps, like Bermuda, and  Jamaica, have begun to introduce new measures for more tolerance, but an advocate needs to keep the pressure on.

A Blinded History: According to a study conducted by Trevor Bernard, based on data are taken from St Andrews Jamaica, marriage patterns between 1666 and 1750 taken from the parish register were analyzed.

The results indicated that the average length of marriage was extremely short and declined over time. It resulted in a reduction of children produced by marriage and was insufficient to sustain slavery and population growth. During that period, influxes of women slaves from Britain and Africa arrived in the region.

An argument can be articulated that they were placed there for procreation and not simply as slaves working for white rulers, as reported.

It seems valid if people stayed married four centuries ago, and produced more children; it would have supported the demands for labor. Centuries later, independence has caused more social and economic struggles, as residual footprints in customs, laws, beliefs until now encounter the ghosts of the past.

Not long ago I began wondering if the Buggery Act has similarities as earlier, anti-voting laws passed to isolate certain groups.

Some 150 years later several Jamaicans opposed amending the Buggery Act that was created during colonial rule around 1861. Today, many leaders in the region remain silent on amendments or new human rights laws. The anti-gay protesters believe that homosexuals and their agenda are bad for strong and healthy families, righteousness, and justice.

History also has shown the quest for equality does not sit comfortably with few on ideological grounds.

A recent one report on  YouTube by an Arizona pastor claiming that “we can have an AIDS-free world by Christmas if gays were executed.”If the god they all worship is love for all, who determines which one is not loved by him?

Like fighting other racial issues, the gay community has to continue to fight for equality because while they dance to fun rhythms on the beach in these regions, many lyrics are strategically placed to demonize the community, like racial epithets, and codes used to polarize, create intolerance and hate.

The Fight Continues:

The gay, lesbian, and transgender community spends an estimated $830 billion according to Curve Magazine each year. Given its influence especially along blue water and white sand through, promoting more education, and other grassroots support is vital. Some of these exclusive vacation spots globally cannot afford to avoid potential revenue, despite their position on the gay community.

Furthermore, the community strategically should not have to plan gay vacations routes based only on gay-friendly destinations in the Caribbean, Africa or any other regions as if it is an election strategy targeting only your registered voters.

Only when societies become more educated and tolerant, then we can begin to dance together and reverse a monster that was created. Pushing the legalization of marijuana, despite its potential long-term addictive effect, gay rights should take on the same effort.

Finally, the next time you power up your iPhone to spread hate, just recognize the new design you waited 24 hours in 10-degree weather to purchase was approved by a gay man.

And no! I am not gay, but should that matter to support their cause? Rest in Peace • Leslie Feinberg-for fighting for equality for all.

And no! I am not gay, but should that matter to support their cause? Rest in Peace • Leslie Feinberg-for fighting for equality for all. Changes take time and often resisted. Those communities must choose candidates who share their values

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